Stories from the Border: Reflections on Ways of Working with People with Borderline Personality Disorder Living in the Community

John Little and Duncan Thomson
Kapiti CMHT, New Zealand

Series: Psychiatry – Theory, Applications and Treatments
BISAC: PSY022030


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This is a startlingly frank account of a psychiatrist’s and a psychologist’s learnings, milestones and mistakes when working with people with the characteristics of borderline personality disorder (BPD). The book is an examination of the physician and therapist as much as it is of this often ‘alarming and bewildering’ group of people.

Throughout their illuminating, frank and often moving accounts of their work, Doctors Little and Thomson elucidate and reflect on the principles that inform their practice and the practice of their mental health team colleagues. Importantly, the book also presents stories in their own words from the people with whom they all work. These stories offer further valuable insight into the experience of BPD and its treatment and therapy. (Imprint: Nova)



About Us

Part One: Taking Time

Chapter 1 - Getting the Timing Right by Slowing Things Down (pp. 3-10)

Chapter 2 - ‘With the Stroke of A Pen’ … The Dilemma of Diagnosis (pp. 13-26)

Part Two: Taking risks

Chapter 3 - Emerging Principles (pp. 29-42)

Chapter 4 - Keeping Responsibility’s ‘Siblings’ to the Fore (pp. 43-56)

Part Three: Putting Principles into Practice

Chapter 5 - ‘Getting on with It’—Treatment-Related Considerations (pp. 359-90)

Part Four: Reflecting on Experiences and Aftermaths

Chapter 6 - Learnings and Outcomes (pp. 93-122)

Chapter 7 - Beyond the Border (pp. 123-128)



Further Reading


These references, along with the suggested further reading that follows, provide a body of work that collect in one place our thoughts, ideas and experiences over our professional lives—at least to date! We’ve annotated some of the references that we consider particularly useful in terms of the ideas discussed in this book.

[1] Little J, Rouhan J. An organisational and community-based approach to deliberate self harm. Australasian Psychiatry 2009;17: 169–170.
[2] Ballarat Health Services, Grampian Psychiatric Services. Caring in a different way: An organisational and community-based approach to deliberate self harm. Ballarat, Australia: Ballarat Health Services; 1999. These are the course notes for a two-day workshop that we ran.
[3] Little JD, Bipolar II and the birth of a new physics. Australia & New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry 2013;47: 882. It took 1200 years for Copernicus’s notion that the sun, not Earth, was at the centre of the universe. However, with sincerity, interest in broadening the bipolar spectrum may be premature.
[4] Little J, Richardson K. The clinician’s dilemma: Borderline personality disorder or bipolar spectrum disorder? Australasian Psychiatry 2010;18(5): 303–308. Examines subjectivity in the diagnostic process, acknowledging the role of bias and the limitation of the scientific method. A theoretical paper.
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[9] Little, J. Do I matter? Therapeutic communities. The International Journal of Therapeutic Communities 2014;35(1): 1–4. doi: 10.1108/TC-03-2013-0004. The point is in the title. I often ask the people I work with this question.
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[14] Little J. The therapeutic use of ‘no’. Paper presented at the 13th International Congress on the Disorders of Personality, 16–19 September 2013, Copenhagen, Denmark. This paper provides a useful summary of the sparse literature on this very important topic.
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[33] Dawson D, MacMillan HL. Relationship management of the borderline patient. New York: Brunner/Mazel; 1993. This book is excellent. It is easy to read and paints a philosophy that we believe in, namely that the patient is respected as a competent, responsible adult, and provides really useful responses to awkward questions that you wished you’d thought of. If you’re short of time, just focus on the middle sections, Chapters 5–8.
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